Three Strong Women by Marie NDiaye is a novel that focuses on three women who say no. Winner of the coveted Prix Goncourt, the first by a black woman, Marie NDiaye, creates a luminous narrative triptych as harrowing as beautiful. With lyrical intensity, Marie NDiaye masterfully evokes the relentless denial of dignity, to say nothing of happiness, in these lives caught between Africa and Europe. I highly recommend this novel.
Positive Yes, Happy Maybe

When I first met Jan, her description, which her friends echoed, was that I was very relaxed and happy.
They could not comprehend why I was so laid back.
My belief was I did not have the time to be angry or sad but needed to be positive.
In my never-ending grief journey, being positive is still my go-to attitude. Being happy again is, on most days, an unobtainable desire.
The following quote summarizes the problem of my life.
It’s time to just be happy. Being angry, sad, and overthinking isn’t worth it anymore. Just let things flow. Be positive.
My life without Jan has tested my positive outlook more profoundly than any other crisis.
Every day after waking up, I look in the mirror and remind myself to be positive.
Will I ever wake up and not need to remind myself to be positive? Will I be happy again?
The only truth I know is that Jan is still with me and that the love Jan and I shared will never die!
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