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Why Am I Giving Her Love Away?

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Jan and Richard

Jan and Richard

Sharing Jan’s Love
Because Love Never Dies

“Why are you giving her love away?” My answer is that I am not giving it away. What I am doing is sharing her love. The love they receive increases as they share it with others. Ultimately, that love returns to me, and I have more of Jan’s passion for life that I can re-share.

The idea of sharing her love resulted from a poem – Merrit Malloy’s Epitaph – that Jan and I both liked. It was read at her funeral and will be at mine. The last stanza explains why I share her love to preserve her memory and legacy.

Love doesn’t die,
People do.
So, when all that’s left of me
Is love,
Give me away.

Merrit Malloy, Epitaph
My two daughters-in-law, Karen Tillou and Elyssa Nucero read.
Epitaph by Merrit Malloy at Celebrate Jan Day, April 24, 2022.

I need to share her love to avoid living on an island of grief. I do not do this because I no longer love her; I do it because I love her now more than ever.

By sharing her love, it will return to me more robust.

Sharing Jan’s love will preserve her memory and legacy and make us all stronger.

We will all be inspired and empowered to repair the world and make it a better place for everyone by sharing her love.

If my choice is either an island of grief or a community of love, I will always choose love.

Sharing Jan’s love is the true meaning of my love for her!

Why are you giving her love away?” My answer is that I am not giving it away, and what I am doing is sharing her love…

Posted by Richard W. Brown on Monday, November 15, 2021

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