When I'm Gone, Look for Me in the East by Quan Barry is a luminous novel that moves across a windswept Mongolia as a pair of estranged twin brothers make a journey of duty, conflict, and renewed understanding. Since Jan died, I have been sharing her love and not looking for her, so this novel attracted me as it was a counter-narrative. Are our lives our own, or do we belong to something more significant?
Memorial a Play for Our Time!

Last night I attended a performance of Memorial by the Pan Asian Repertory Company.
I am not, and this is not a review, but in my humble opinion, this is a must-see play.
As director Jeff Liu said during rehearsals, “this play encapsulates the best and worst of this country.”
The play is based on the events surrounding Maya Lin, the design and construction of the Vietnam Memorial.
I was alive and the time and remember the horrible comments made about Ms. Lin and the design. I have also visited and wept at the Memorial.
Angel Lin, whose superb acting as Maya Lin carries the performance, ends the play with a message for our country and me as a widow.
Colonel James Becker, played by James Patrick Nelson, has found the name of a fellow soldier on the wall and asks Maya what does she see?
“I do not see just the soldier you remember; I see all of them.”
The Vietnam Memorial successfully focuses not on statues but on the ordinary service members who lost their lives. As we read the names, we remember them and their lives.
As a widow, I say Jan’s name and have worked to keep it alive with her garden and education fund.
By doing this, I remember Jan’s memory, which is a blessing now and forever!
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