Jan is Still With Me

One Hundred Forty-Four Minutes

Estimated reading time: 1 minute, 8 seconds

Jan with a Therapy DogI have never been competitive, but since purchasing my Apple Watch 7 almost one year ago, I did not found a challenge I will not try.

The November test is to earn one hundred forty-four exercise minutes daily for fourteen days.

As of today, I have met this goal for seven days in a row. I need to walk at least seven miles a day to accomplish this.

With the unusual warmth that will end tomorrow, I had moments when I doubted I could achieve the goal.

But I persevere, place one foot in front of the other, and log the minutes I need to complete the task one more day.

If Jan were still with me, she would encourage me to keep walking.

My dad taught me that life is fragile and that one never knows when one cannot do what one enjoys.

Tomorrow, I will take one step at a time and cast my vote in Cranford’s Town Hall.


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The First Mile is the Most Difficult!

Since Jan died, the first mile has been the most difficult.

When she was alive, the first mile was one we walked together.

Now it is the most difficult.

When my eyes open and I stop the alarm on my Apple Watch, I doubt whether I can walk.

But then I hear Jan whispering in my ear.

Richard, you are capable and strong, and I believe in you.
With Jan's love, support and encouragement, I walk whispering back to her, one soul, one love everlasting!

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Jan is Still With Me

One Hundred Forty-four Minutes in Fourteen Days

Estimated reading time: 1 minute, 8 seconds

I achieved the goal of one hundred forty-four exercise minutes daily for fourteen days on November 14th. One more time, I walked enough every day to meet the destination within the exact amount of time allowed.

However, unlike achieving the Apple Watch’s goals, the last day was a bloody struggle.

I am still not sure what happened yesterday, but the final day was one that almost stopped my daily walks. I never showered, ached when I walked, and felt unsure if I would meet the goal.

I am still unsure if I slept on the cold tiles of my bathroom, and I may never know.

I am better today. Perhaps yesterday was a fluke.

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