The Friend: A Novel by Sigrid Nunez is a moving story of love, friendship, grief, healing, and the magical bond between a woman and her dog. When a woman unexpectedly loses her lifelong best friend and mentor, she finds herself burdened with the unwanted dog he has left behind. I understand the positives and negatives of having a dog help with grief, but I cannot have one where I live.

You Can’t Hurry Grief
Grief’s hold on each of us is how we remember the pain of mourning.
It has been sixteen and one-half months since Jan died.
I wake up every morning alone.
I miss Jan more than ever.
Today I am getting my Flu shot and my third COVID booster.
If only they could create a vaccination for grief.
But as Sigrid Nunez writes in The Friend: A Novel,
You can’t hurry, love, as the song goes. You can’t hurry, grief, either.
As painful as my grief journey has been, it reminds me of how much Jan and I loved each other.
Just as Jan and I did not rush our love, I will not rush my grief!
She is still with me, and our love will never die.
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