Walking for 1097 Days

Smiling Despite a Misty Drizzle

Can a Simple Act of Kindness Change the World?

Estimated reading time: 2 minutes, 11 seconds

As I was nearing the 7.7-mile mark close to my apartment building, I strolled past the Greatest Brothers Barbershop on Alden Street. I noticed the owner sitting comfortably in the barber chair through the window. As I passed by, he flashed a warm smile as I waved at him. Giving him a friendly wave, I started to finish my walk. However, I couldn’t resist opening the door to exchange greetings. Once inside, he reiterated how much my smile brightened his day. Despite my initial reluctance to accept the compliment, he remained insistent as we shook hands and reiterated how much my smile meant to him.

As I ascended the staircase to the third floor of Apartment 3B, I tried to understand the profound impact of a simple act of kindness. It baffled me how an average individual like me, who had grappled with the profound loss of his dear wife, could wield such influence just by extending a warm wave and offering genuine well-wishes during my routine strolls. I was sure that the solution to this enigma would gradually unfold, akin to the unfurling petals of a blossoming rose.

In just two short days, two women who frequently walk their dogs together now greet me with the warmth and familiarity of old friends. However, these encounters with the barber and the dog walkers were just the beginning of something greater. In the wake of grief that had almost claimed my last breath, I had transformed into someone recognized and lauded by friends, neighbors, and fellow travelers on life’s winding path, all because of my simple acts of kindness. This transformation, this recognition, is a testament to personal growth and the power of empathy. It’s a journey we all share, and it’s a journey that connects us all. Shouldn’t we treat each other like cherished family members, given that we are cousins on this shared life journey?

Upon stepping into my home, I summoned Siri to play WNYC-FM and settled down with a copy of The New York Times. As I ate my breakfast, I mulled over the barber’s conversation, trying to comprehend his words. I pondered how I could have brightened and improved his day, but no clear solutions were presented. While tidying up after breakfast, it struck me that there might not be a definitive answer, except that grief has been a great teacher. It has taught me life’s most crucial lesson – serving and blessing the living. This realization and understanding are a beacon of light in the darkness, guiding our actions and reflecting our humanity.

Grief’s Lesson: Serving and Blessing the Living!

I have noticed various changes within me sparked by the transformative power of grief. It's a testament to the resilience of the human spirit and the potential for positive change.

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by Margaret Atwood

My Evil Mother: A Short Story by Margaret Atwood was a free book with your Prime Reading membership. I have always enjoyed reading Ms. Atwood’s books. My Evil Mother was an enjoyable read and reminded me why she is a great author and why short stories are unique and special. As the NY Times described, My Evil Mother, is a bittersweet short story about mothers, daughters’ witches’ brew of love—and control. I highly recommend it as it is one of my best books this year. 

Goodreads provides a concise overview.

Life is hard enough for a teenage girl in 1950s suburbia without having a mother who may—or may not—be a witch. A single mother at that. Sure, she fits in with her starched dresses, string of pearls, and floral aprons. Then there are the hushed and mystical consultations with neighborhood women in distress. The unsavory, mysterious plants in the flower beds. The divined warning to steer clear of a boyfriend whose fate is certainly doomed. But as the daughter of this bewitching homemaker comes of age and her mother’s claims become more and more outlandish, she begins to question everything she once took for granted.

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In addition, a labyrinth is one of the options we have discussed for the next phase of the work in Hanson Park.

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The Goodreads summary provides an overview of Piranesi by Susanna Clarke.

Piranesi’s house is no ordinary building: its rooms are infinite, its corridors endless, its walls are lined with thousands upon thousands of statues, each one different from all the others. Within the labyrinth of halls an ocean is imprisoned; waves thunder up staircases, rooms are flooded in an instant. But Piranesi is not afraid; he understands the tides as he understands the pattern of the labyrinth itself. He lives to explore the house.

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