Meliorism: Small Steps Change the World!

improving the World With Acts of Love, Creativity, Compassion, and Kindness

“Ever since we met, you have been an incredible person. The love you shared with Jan is evident in your dedication to the many acts you have completed in her honor, and it has fueled you to live each day with purpose. You have kept her memory alive and well!” wrote a friend of mine in response to my expressing gratitude for what he had helped me to accomplish since Jan died. As much as I was pleased by his comments, they raised an issue that continues to define me and what I have done. Are we independent actors, or do we work in collaboration? Or are we meliorists who contribute to positive change and improve the world through acts of love, creativity, compassion, and kindness?

In my apartment, I relax and care for myself. But my life extends beyond these walls, and I am part of a diverse and vibrant community. When I talk about my community, I’m not just talking about one group but a complex network of interconnected and overlapping groups. This includes my involvement in the faith community at Temple Sha’arey Shalom, my contributions to the Hanson Park Conservancy and Bridges Board, and my interactions with their staff. I consider companions, local store owners, neighbors, friends, and family important to my extended community.

The idea to plant a tree in Jan’s Memorial Garden was mine, but the garden’s completion was a testament to the power of collective effort. The invaluable inspiration and suggestions from conservancy members, Jan’s family, and friends transformed the garden into what it is today.

• We were fortunate to receive donations from 173 friends, which allowed us to purchase two beautiful memorial benches.
• With the support of the Hanson Park Conservancy, the triangular garden was reimagined by adding flower beds and a wind sculpture, creating a space for meditation, contemplation, and reflection.
• Thanks to the generosity of our donors, we not only raised more funds than needed for the benches but created a lasting legacy. The surplus money was channeled into the Jan Lilien Education Fund, a beacon of support for sustainability and environmental awareness programs.

As a meliorist, I believe in our ability to contribute to positive change and improve the world through love, creativity, compassion, and kindness. We thrive and achieve more when we unite to support one another. Jan’s Memorial Garden has brought immense value to the Cranford community, inspiring the Hanson Park Conservancy and the Jan Lilien Education Fund to engage more individuals in the park, leaving a lasting impression. It’s a testament to the power of small steps and collaborative efforts, showing that working together can build something extraordinary and enchanting for present and future generations.

Health, Community, Novelty, Purpose

improving the World With Acts of Love, Creativity, Compassion, and Kindness