A Healthy Baby Boy!

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Happy Birthday, Michael!

“Jon, this is your Mom’s room. Let’s be quiet as she might be resting when we go in.” We opened the door slowly. Jan was in bed with her eyes closed. Jon walked to the bed and stood next to his Mom. 

“Mom, I love you,” he whispered. 

Jan did not move or open her eyes. 

“Let’s see your baby brother and let your mom rest.”

As we walked down the hallway, Jon asked why she was so tired.

Your Mom gave birth, which is very difficult physically and emotionally. She needs to rest so she can regain her strength and be there for both of her sons.

“Is it more difficult than being a firefighter?”

Yes.

“More difficult than building a tall building?”

Yes.

“Flying to the moon?”

Yes.

He was too short to see, so I moved a chair over for Jon to stand on. 

Jon looked at me and said, “Today is Michael’s first birthday?”

I said yes. 

We should sing happy birthday to him.

Even though my voice is horrible, I joined Jon in singing happy birthday to his newborn brother, Michael Jacob!

Happy Birthday to You
Happy Birthday to You
Happy Birthday Dear Michael
Happy Birthday to You.
How old are you now?
Zero days old!

Tears flowed down my cheeks when Jon celebrated his brother’s first birthday with a song.

As my father had said to me, there was enough love for both children and Jan. We were a family of four, and we were very much in love! That afternoon, if the love in our hearts – Jan, Jon, Mike, and mine – could have been connected to the power grid, we could have provided enough electricity to light up all of Brooklyn!


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  1. What a great way to remember Your dear wife! I will spend some time reading past articles. Keep going, Richard! Great job!!!

    • Hugo, thank you so very much for your kind words.

      I write from my heart about Jan. The words flow like fresh honey.

      As Helen Keller wrote,

      “What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.”

      Let me know if you find other articles of interest and feel free to share the newsletter with anyone you believe might enjoy reading it.

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