Self-improvement is Crucial During Grief
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Mourning Jan is the most challenging crisis of my life.
I say this despite a life-threatening attack by a German Shepard.
I also almost died in the fire at the VISTA House.
Jan was and always will be the love of my life.
Living without her has tested me in ways that I never expected.
In my previous confrontations with death, I focused on finding meaning and purpose by re-reading Man’s Search for Meaning.
After Jan’s death, I bounced up and down like a Jack in the box.
In time, I realized the simple truth of life,
The best people I know are always evaluating and improving themselves. The unhappy people are usually evaluating and judging others.
Evaluating who I was without Jan helped me to improve my life.
Accepting that people die but love does not let me know that Jan is still with me and always will be.
Within a month of the funeral, I began to share Jan’s love and find meaning in being a widow.
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Will I Be the One to Grow From My Grief?
In the earliest days, I was unable to do anything but weep.
Those days are rarer but still occur. Sixteen months and counting, and despite improvements, the heartache remains ever-present.
I have focused on Dr. Lois Tonkin's research that documents that our only option is to grow around grief, so our grief is a smaller portion of us.
