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Road Trip in a Tuxedo

How Long Can You Cry?

Walking With Jan's Spirit!

Estimated reading time: 1 minute, 34 seconds

Jan and RichardLast Sunday, I visited Jan’s grave at Beth Israel Cemetery, which I do regularly.

While driving there, I listened to an episode of This American Life on WNYC called “Road Trip in a Tuxedo,” featuring an interview with the late George Burns conducted by Margy Rochlin.

During the interview portion, I heard George talk about the loss of his wife, Gracie. I was struck by his question about how long someone can cry. Since Jan’s death, I’ve shed many tears, but I know that crying won’t bring her back. Jan and I had a wonderful life together, but hers ended too soon.

Now, instead of dwelling on my sadness, I’m trying to reinvent myself. I walk to clear my head and write about Jan to keep her memory alive. I also read a lot, hoping to find guidance for my journey. But I still need to figure out exactly who I will become. All I can do is walk with Jan’s spirit beside me and move forward.

I remember what George Burns said in the interview:

What would you do if somebody died? You sit home and cry? How long can you cry? Cry for two hours? You cry. And you cry, and you cry. Finally, there are no more tears. Now you go to work. And you feel bad. Every time you come home, you feel bad because Gracie isn’t there.

Jan and I shared a great love; even though she’s gone, that love will never die.

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Who Am I Today?

Who Am I Today?

We are often asked to remember the most important person in our lives.

Jan has been and always will be my answer. Her love transformed my life. If we had not met and fallen in love, I would not be who I am today.

Richard W. Brown May 19, 2022

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