Kindness to Strangers

Kindness to Strangers

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Remembering Jan at Camp Widow!Being kind and gentle has always been used to describe me. Those two attributes are in my DNA.

Since Jan died, I have become more focused on kindness and gentlemanliness.

My friend Chris who owns Ambeli’s, the best greek restaurant, introduces me to other patrons as the most refined gentlemen he knows.

I wish people a nice day or pleasant evening on my morning walks and evening strolls. I do not know the walkers I pass, but I want to share a positive message.

One of Chris’s staff calls me Dr. Love because I share a positive attitude. Yesterday I was wearing my Bridges t-shirt, and Chris said,

You are building bridges and connecting us!

In my life, especially after Jan’s death, strangers have helped me. I am kind to others to repay those who helped me.

I am a good friend and neighbor. I am not sure Dr. Love is the appropriate nickname. I only want to connect and help others. Since Jan died, I no longer have anyone to love me.

Even unloved, I will remain kind to strangers, family, and friends.

The love Jan and I shared will never die!


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