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Wedding Roadblocks

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Love Never Dies

Yes, We Will Get Married

Good morning, sweetheart!” I had gotten up before she did and had waited in the living room until I heard Jan begin to wake up. When I heard movement, I went into the bedroom, stood at the end of the bed, and said, “I love you!”

Jan stretched her arms and said, “Me too!”

I kissed her sweet lips and looked into her eyes. 

“Are you ready to get married today,” I asked in a semi-serious tone?

“Not today, but we will plan our August wedding and honeymoon.”

Let’s have breakfast and divide up the tasks.

The task list was not that long. We needed to confirm with the Rabbi, the minister, to find a place for the wedding and the reception. Other tasks could wait.

“We can call the Rabbi together, and then I will call my parents.”

I nodded and sat next to her so we could hold the telephone between us. 

The call with the Rabbi was brief. We confirmed his availability for the date and that we could use his terrace if we had fewer than twenty people.

After the call, we sat silent and appreciated that we were getting married this summer.

“Now, we need to get your parents to attend.” 

“I will do my best.”

Jan dialed and got the answering machine. 

“I love Richard, and we are getting married on August 9th, and I want both of you to attend. I have never been happier or more positive and confident about any decision. Call me.”

Richard W. Brown speaks about grief, sharing Jan’s love, and how Hanson Park became the site of Jan’s Memorial Garden.

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