Empathy for Those Who Are Suffering

Empathy for Those Who Are Suffering

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Jon, Jan, and MikeEmpathy has always been a word used to describe me since childhood.

Since Jan died, this ability has helped me help others and, by doing so, help myself.

As depressed and anxious as I might be, I have come to realize that being able to understand the suffering of other widows is crucial for the management of my grief.

Could I have been an active member of two Zoom support groups without empathy?

As Audrey Hepburn said,

Nothing is more important than empathy for another human being’s suffering. Nothing. Not a career, not wealth, not intelligence, certainly not status. We have to feel for one another if we’re going to survive with dignity.


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Helping Others Helps Me!

No one reads my words, and few, if any, comment on my bookshelf.

But I find myself asked to facilitate more groups and thanked for only doing what any of us would do to help each other manage our grief.

Yet, I hear more people say they listen to my words because I speak with clarity and transparency. Is there any other way that any of us should talk?

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