My People Were Refugees Too

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Refugee and Asylum Advocacy Training

Yesterday my wife and I participated in a Refugee and Asylum Action Advocacy Training sponsored by HIAS. America is an idea, and now is the time to welcome the stranger and protect the refugee.

Being referred to by many as an advocate, it was strange sitting in a room at Temple Emanu-El in Westfield. I had to hold myself back from speaking up, jumping the plan, and encouraging everyone to make calls, set up meetings, and advocate.

I had to remind myself that we were attending to represent Temple Sha’arey Shalom. So, I listen and learn.

I am here because I am looking for something to replace my life’s work as I enter the third week of retirement, realizing that the key to being a leader is learning patience and finding a way to be a team player.

Being Jewish by marriage, I keep thinking about how my family history of being a refugee from Ireland fits with the diaspora. If our people were refugees too, the reason they left to come to America is not that important.

America is an idea. Ireland is a great country, but it’s not an idea. Great Britain is a great country, but it’s not an idea. That’s how we see you around the world, as one of the greatest ideas in human history.

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The goals seem easy compared to decades of seeking adequate funding for a place to call home.

The Refugee Advocacy Asks are:

  • Keeping the refugee resettlement program open;
  • Holding the Administration accountable in reaching its 30,000 Presidential Determination (PD) level for FY19;
  • Increasing the PD to at least 75,000 in FY20;
  • Maintaining adequate funding for the program; and
  • Reviving bipartisan Congressional support for the program and finding common ground with administrative agencies.

The following steps become less clear. Can we move ahead, or do we need to gain support from our temple?

Finally, we agree to continue to meet.

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From Julia Armfield, the beloved and award-winning author of Our Wives Under the Sea, comes a speculative reimagining of King Lear. Private Rites centers on three sisters navigating queer love and loss in a world that is drowning. It has been raining for so long that the landscape has reshaped itself, and old rituals and religions are beginning to resurface. Sisters Isla, Irene, and Agnes have not spoken to each other in some time.

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Julia Armfield is the author of the novels Private Rites and Our Wives Under the Sea, which was a finalist for the Lambda Literary Award and the 2022 Goodreads Choice Award for Best Horror and Best Debut Novel, and the story collection salt slow. Her work has appeared in Granta, Lighthouse, Analog Magazine, Neon, and Best British Short Stories 2019 and 2021. She is the winner of the White Review Short Story Prize and a Pushcart Prize, and shortlisted for the Sunday Times Young Writer of the Year Awards in 2019. She lives and works in London.



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